Valentine’s Day encouragement
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Happy Valentine’s day my friends… I am writing this post with really what is just on my heart and maybe to help someone else who is in the same season of life as me.
For the longest time I always dreaded Valentine’s Day. It was a sick twisted reminder that God hasn’t brought me my promise yet of a husband. But this year it’s different. You see my season hasn’t changed yet, but I know it is right around the corner cause I know my God’s heart and His desires for me.
But this year is different. Where years in the past… I so dreaded and longed for this day to be evicted from the calendar. This year I am actually thankful for being single on Valentines day. You are all are probably like what… why. Well you see, I’ve had a relationship for the past three years thats really just been horrible. The only good thing that came out of that relationship was my drawing closer to God than I ever have before. It required me to lean in to Him and find myself.
You see all my singles out there. You don’t want to be in a relationship that makes you feel like the last person on the totem pole. I know you might have some of that happen regardless but this is different. You don’t want a relationship to drag on for three years and at the sight of any trouble you get dropped so they can go mess around. You see You don’t want a man that won’t do what you ask because it is the right thing. You don’t want a man that can’t fix relationships with people you love so that you can be healed. You don’t want a man who chooses to go on binders and try to get laid instead of coming to see you. You don’t want a man who values everyone else over you. You see you, you don’t want a man who can’t sacrifice for you. You see you don’t want a man that after threes still can’t quit talking to other girls or even commit. You see you don’t want a man that doesn’t have character, or tenacity, or honor, or respect. You see my fellow sister you need a man, not a boy.
You want a man that follows the Lord, and does what the Holy Spirit asks of him. You want a man that will respect you and love you, and do whatever it takes to make that happen. You see you want a man that will provide for you and lead you. You want a man who doesn’t blame you for his decisions. Sister you want a man. And I’m writing all this for me to process this crazy journey of life I have been on for the last three hard years. This might be the wrong way to process, but if it helps you in the process of the real, raw, truth of the situation then I am glad. I will gladly share my experience, and what the Lord has taught me over the last three years.
Now now, you are probably wondering why in the world would I have even been with someone like that. As I sit here and contemplate, I ask myself the same question. i don’t really know, all I know is I felt like I was supposed to me. And I did give this man every opportunity under the sun to change and be a better man… And maybe it was just for a season so I could learn what I know now. So I could learn how to be obedient to the Lord through it all. Maybe it was just a test. And thats okay… because I know my God is good. And I know all this hard work, and struggles, and trials, and tears, God sees. And He will honor it all. Nothing is every wasted with the Lord and I can take heart in that.
So as I sit here typing this all crazy messy story out. I am just letting the tears stream down my face. Cause I am so thankful on this Valentine’s Day to be single. I am so thankful that my Valentine is God, it is Jesus. It is the one who wrote love. It is the one who made marriage. It is the one true love that we all have. And that’s beautiful and its a beautiful place to be at. So my friends.. if you are single like me, take heart. Ask God to be your Valentine. I know it might sound corny, but you will not regret the decision. Ask God to write your love story, ask God to redeem you. Ask God to do exceedingly abundantly more than what you could ever think or imagine for. Ask God for a new season. Here are some scriptures the Lord has put in life right now because I know things are shifting for me now. I know God’s heart for my life. I know God’s will for my life, I know that His timing is perfect. And I know that he has the perfect husband for me. And I know He has the perfect Husband for you too. And I know with all my heart, all my mind, and all my soul He is working swiftly behind the scenes for us, His beloved.
“For thus says the Lord, “You shall not see wind or rain, but that stream bed shall be filled with water so that you shall drink, you, your livestock, and your animals.’ This is a light thing in sight of the Lord.” 2 Kings 3:17-18 ESV
“The one I love calls to me: Arise my dearest. Hurry, my darling. Come away with me! I have come as you have asked to draw you to my heart and lead you out. For now is the time, my beautiful one. The season has changed, the bondage of your barren winter has ended, and the season of hiding is over and gone. The rains have soaked the earth, and left it bright and blossoming flowers. The season for singing and pruning the vines has arrived. I hear the cooing of doves in our land, filling the air with songs to awaken you and guide you forth. Can you not discern this new day of destiny breaking forth around you? The early signs of my purpose and plans are bursting forth. The budding vines of new life are now blooming everywhere. The fragrance of their flowers whispers, “There is change in the air.” Arise, my love, my beautiful companion, and run with me to the higher place. For now is the time to arise and come away with me.” Song of Songs 2:10-13 TPT
“Never doubt God’s might power to work in you and accomplish all this. He will achieve infinitely more than your greatest request, your most unbelievable dream, and exceed your wildest imagination! He will outdo them all, his miraculous power constantly energizes you. Now we offer up to God all the glorious praise that rises from every church in every generation through Jesus Christ— and all that will yet be magnified through time and eternity. Amen” Epehsains 3:20-21 TPT
“For I know the plans I have for you,” says the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Jeremiah 29:11 NIV
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose” Romans 8:28 NIV.. really all of Romans 8 is so encouraging
“I know that you can do everything, and that no purpose of Yours can be withheld from you.” Job 42:2
“Trust in the Lord with all your hear, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths” Proverbs 3:5-6
Other encouraging scriptures for your season of life. John 14:1, Isaiah 49:16, Isaiah 49:15, Job 8:7 John 15:4. Also I really encourage you to read the Song of Songs. It is such a beautiful love story between you and our creator. It will fill you with hope, encouragement, and most importantly love.